It’s not what you say but, how you say it!!!!!
It’s not what you said but, it’s what people HEAR!
We have all heard that saying and I have personally said it too many times to count.
It still remains true.
Not only do you want to make sure the words that you are saying to others are uplifting and edifying like it says in the Bible but, you want the tone, demeanor and motivation behind those words to come through so the hearer is able to receive those words especially if they are correctional. Lets look at these verses:
Ephesians 4:29 – King James
Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
Ephesians 4:29-32 – The Message
Watch the way you talk. Let nothing foul or dirty come out of your mouth. Say only what helps, each word a gift.
So we see through these two different versions of the bible that our words need to be
A gift not a curse
Not foul or dirty
A blessing not a curse
Build them up, not knock them down.
Who knew the importance of the words that your mouth speak’s on a daily basis could cause such harm or life to someone.
God knew, that’s why He wrote this:
Proverbs 18:21 – The Message
Words kill, Words give Life
They’re either poison or fruit- YOU choose.
If that doesn’t make you slow to speak the next time you open your mouth I don’t know what will.
Our words can bring life or death!
It can be a poison or death to someone? Wow now that’s a heavy burden to bear.
But, WE get to choose, yes YOU choose the words that come out of your mouth and the tone and intention behind those words.
No one is shoving their hands down your throat to put words in there. It’s all your doing! No one to blame but you.
Do you remember this saying we would say as kids:
Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.
Well its a LIE!
A broken bone will eventually heal once it is set and casted but, Words have the power to live on forever and hurt on a daily basis unlike the healed bone when done healing it’s over it’s as good as new.
If you allow those hurt words to fester and marinate in your heart and mind they can live forever tormenting you to a point of you getting bitter to that person and never growing better.
Lets decide to today to watch over our words and bring grace and life to others not only through our words but our actions too Because you know- actionsdo even speak louder than words.
You can’t say I love you to someone and on the inside you don’t even like the person, what’s inside will eventually show on the outside and you wont be fooling yourself or that person any longer.
Let’s remember the “HOW” we say something is also important to the listener as is “WHAT” your saying.
If you are struggling with unkind words that were spoken over you that have been eating you apart, I encourage you to ask God for the courage and strength to let go of the hurt that has tired to hold you down, give that wounded heart and mind over to God once and for all. When you do He- God will give you a peace and even an understanding behind what was spoken to you.
It just might be that the person that said these things were so hurting inside themselves ( maybe even because of words spoken to them) and you never looked at it or even cared to look at it from their perspective because of course we always think we are always right.
Be open to what God will speak to your heart, it is only when we come to God with a open heart and mind that we can really receive and be made whole through our obedience to Him.
I WILL not only watch what I say but, I WILL watch HOW I say it so that I can be a Blessing to those around me!
Please let me know if you have struggled in this area and how did you get breakthrough?